7 Steps To Benefiting From Mentoring or Pastoral Guidance – 7

Step 7 – Remain respectful to you mentor

Deuteronomy 32:15But Jeshurun waxed fat, and kicked: thou art waxen fat, thou art grown thick, thou art covered with fatness; then he forsook God, which made him, and lightly esteemed the Rock of his salvation.

John 6:66-69From that time many of his disciples went back, and walked no more with him. Then said Jesus unto the twelve, Will ye also go away? Then Simon Peter answered him, Lord, to whom shall we go? Thou hast the words of eternal life. And we believe and are sure that thou art the Christ, the Son of the living God.

Friend, a time will come when you will have the option of quitting and believe me quitting is the easiest option but it comes with future regrets. You will have the opportunity to undermine and take lightly the authority of your mentor especially when you have been privileged to have easy access to him. The temptation always comes when it appears you are making as much impact as him or her. Ideas begin to generate and people begin to suggest to you that you are better than the man you are following. They will tell you, you don’t have to remain under him. They will encourage you to seek and start your own thing and all manner of things will start presenting themselves to you to challenge your integrity. It is the integrity of your heart, rightness of your motives, loyalty and spiritual maturity that will save and keep you from going astray.

I have come to realise that every person discovers their call while following and working under another person. Very rarely does a person receive their call in isolation. Even if you are called to go and set up something, there is a proper procedure and scriptural way to do it. But it is sad to say that many people have been victims of the lie of the devil. For some, immediately they are making an impact they are of the opinion they should step out, go from under their mentor and establish their own thing. While they are supposed to fulfill their call working under a mentor they are busy opening themselves up to unnecessary hardship.

Over the years I have been around great preachers in different parts of the world but I have not been switching mentors like clothes, rather I have learnt from these men and women and I have also stayed with my mentor. Don’t say I have been with this mentor for 10 years so I have to find another mentor, that’s not the biblical way to do things. Trees are planted in specific places, they don’t move around. Consistency is a major secret of longevity in God’s kingdom. Stay where you are planted. Do not make common the anointing on your mentor, always look at him or her with fresh eyes of honour and dignity. Then and then only will you continually reap a copious and consistent flow of His grace and anointing.

Further reading

1 Samuel 13:8-14, Proverbs 22:28, 2 Timothy 1:6

Personal declaration for the day

I will always be respectful of my mentor and I will value his role in my development.

Questions for you to reflect on

How do you avoid allowing familiarity leading to contempt?